I really feel like you can't take full advantage of the benefits of therapy if you won't talk about and examine your experiences and feelings. Good Ts don't ask you to talk about things that are not relevant to you moving forward or healing. I guess I kind of look at it like a medical doctor taking a history so they can determine your risks and how to best help you. Everyone has different feelings but it does seem to be that not working through the fear and pain is a roadblock.