I think it depends upon your family. I'm the youngest of three, and It seems like the middle child got lots of attention in my family. It's like my mother deliberatly made the consious effort to make sure he didn't feel ignored, and my oldest brother always needed help in school so she was there for him. But when it came to me i was forced to fend for myself, i had to figure out all of my homework out for myself, which wasn't really a problem for me, but it would have been nice if I was remembered once in a while as well. As far as the fitting in thing goes, i never cared about that. I just always figured that my parents birthed me and they didn't give me up, so i just assusmed that i was someone special. Although, my middle brother did acheive to become valavictorian in high school, and as soon as he got out he joined the military, so he was the first child to move out... so he must have been feeling the i want to stick out thing somewhere.