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Originally Posted by tigergirl
I'm very aware of things I do that one of my T's finds annoying. He has never made any secret of it which I'm actually thankful for (for one reason, the same behaviour may annoy others as well so now I'm aware of this). I just realised though, that while I know what annoys him, there are things he does that annoy me which I've never told him. Now I wonder what it would be like to tell him; what the reaction would be like; what it is I'm fearing and why I keep these things to myself.
Do you tell your T's what, if anything, they do that annoys you? What has their reaction been? If you haven't told them, would you like to?
(and thinking of something Sky has said before - my T is still perfect even though he has a few annoying habits  ) |
tell him! if part of your work in therapy is about navigating relationships, this is a really big portion of that. being able to say to someone, "i dont like what you're doing, please stop." is a big deal. you should be able to practice having that conversation with your therapist and see that you can still have relationships even when there's conflict.