I agree with Perna - your husband is acting like a spoiled sulking child. For you to be nice and make him tea but instead he makes his own, this is very disrespectful. He's being passive aggressive. My husband has done this ignoring trick, refusing to accept the smallest kindness and even hanging up the phone on me. Don't tolerate it and he needs to learn how to express his negative emotions like a man not a child. Depression doesn't make you completely ignore your partner or refuse to drink / eat what they give you.