Hi, Zoo! Sorry you and she have had these difficulties. It sounds like you had a misunderstanding from the get-go. I've been through DBT twice and it can work well. However, it IS a time-limited, goal-focused program.

Do you want a therapist to work with in a DBT program--or do you want one who will listen to your feelings, past hurts, etc.? These two types are mutually exclusive from my experiences with DBT.

I have had both types. However, I did go through DBT in group therapy both times. Not just alone with an individual therapist. The therapists were very goal-oriented. Even if someone started crying, that person was sent out of the room until she "got her act together." Sounds cruel, but that's how it's done.....

I have had the other "type" of therapists as well. And right now I'm with a T who is into cognitive stuff, since I've mainly dealt with my past junk.

I can understand your wanting to just get this T out of your life, since you feel hurt. I would suggest, however, that you try at least to talk to her one more time, if for no other reason than her being able to recommend another T to you. OR ideally, to stick DBT out---work through the exercises and follow the program--and then move on. I can assure you, unless she is a VERY unusual T, she does not intend to hurt you, but she wants the best for you. She might even recommend another person to do DBT with, if you desire.

No shooting the messenger, please. I'm trying to be helpful, too. Take care, dear one. Not all therapy or therapists suck. (However, sometimes they might just not be a good match for that given patient--or therapist.)