Thank u..that makes total since..about just keeping it simple..not trying to get her to identify the problem of overusage..she does have to realize that herself, and I would take the chance of pushing her away by trying to be helpful..just saying I am sorry but no, I cant..makes sense..I just have this sinking feeling, that she is going to realize that I figured it out..and push me away anyway out of defense..but maybe we can work it out slowly..you know what the real heartache is..my big fear..what if she wanted to be with me just due to having access to the meds...that would hurt big time..but she seems so sincere..here I go questioning my ability to trust my instincts again with people..I am sure she isnt really going to do that..i hope...I will know if she stops talking to me...silence is the worst way to end things....thanx again..