that would be really difficult being cut off like that and it's a horrible feeling when you know the T is there but you can't access them, it becomes so easy to let all kind of other thoughts enter as well along with the truth (that the cut off was insurance based). I know it's hard to imagine telling her about how difficult the seperation was and the hurt involved and also the anger; but if you can, I think it would be something that ended up being really helpful to you. Not sure if this is true (just came up as a thought); but I wondered if the not wanting to talk is partly wanting to punish her for not being there? and yes, i've been angry at my T for not doing things I've never asked him to do; and for not responding to things I've never said