I thought so, Zoo, to some extent, although I didn't feel comfortable saying it. I went through DBT to treat borderline tendencies--and a major part of BPD is a fear of abandonment. I'm glad you've had this insight.

That said, is there anyway that you might be able to talk about that with your T? DBT was originally designed to treat borderlines, but it is now used for other diagnoses as well. I guess that's why the T works so hard to try to just be a teacher, in a sense, and to try to keep the patient from getting too emotionally involved.

Do you think you can get enough perspective to see that she really isn't abandoning you--but that for your sake, she is trying to get you to work through the DBT with her and then move on? She cares about you enough to encourage you to get what you need from DBT, and then fly out of the nest and spread your wings. If SHE tried to hang on to you beyond when she thinks she is being helpful to you, then she is not being a good therapist. Does that make any sense?

BTW, the hate the word "termination" for the ending of therapy.....Can't they come up with a word that doesn't sound so fatal? Gee.

Hang in there, Zoo. As I say, she obviously does care or she wouldn't be pushing you to work through the program and move on.