its was very odd but good, I may have to tell her, see what she says about it, we were basically talking about what she meant by being kind to youself, and so she told me what she does she said a few things but this was the thing that really got the ball rolling in my head, she said "and when the critical voice pops up in my head, I stop and I say 'thank you for your contribution, but I will be continuing as I was'" and in that moment I realised that its not just us that have the critical voice, T's struggle with it too, they are not perfect, they have been depressed and self critical themselves. and then I felt sorry for her and wondered why she would be self critical and I started feeling empathy. I think T's need to see that sometimes they should show their imperfections as it offers a kind of life line in a way, that someone that seems so well rounded can also struggle? if that makes sense, ive only just really woken up haha!.