i decided to post about it where she could read it this is what i posted:
"she know's how much i'm struggling.. yet she keeps doing it.. i know how much she is struggling so i try to support her.. i know she is struggling and i'm not trying to ignore that but not everything is about her and saying things to make people worry about her is not a way to have friends, infact if she keeps it up she's going to loose them.. she needs to take a step back stop making things look worse than they are and if she's really struggling use her professional supports and stop leaning on her friends so much to the point where she tells them she's going to kill herself on x day but there's nothing anyone can do. she needs help, i'm not denying that, but they way she's going about it is the wrong way. she needs to talk to her professional supports and stop telling her friends that things are worse/more serious than they really are. and yes i sound harsh but she is making me so much worse and if she doesn't stop it she will no longer be a part of my life."

i hope she gets the message and if she confronts me i;m not sure what i'm going to do.. but it will probably end badly.