For me, the T does make the difference. But it also makes a difference about where you are in your healing. My first T was a college T and I was being "forced" to see him. I refused to answer most of his questions. But he kept just being there for me. He was showing me that a person could just hold that space for me, no matter how terrified I was of being in that situation. Being with him actually taught me HOW to do therapy. It wasn't until years later that I returned to the therapy I am in now.

Therapy is a journey. And not all Ts are good matches with all clients.
There is nothing wrong with "shopping around" for the type of therapy you feel benifits you. My T went through about 20 of his own Ts before finding the one he still calls his T.