Masimo, why did you go into therapy to begin with? have you talked about what your feelings MEAN therapeutically, or are you afraid to l0se him if you do? For me, it always goes back to, what was your relationship like with your mother? I am guessing you were not close, and I think this T is having a hard time getting through to you, as mine have with me. if he doesn't ask you to be his girlfriend, nothing else counts. whose idea is that, really? For me, it's my parents' old country (italian) values, they would have married me off at 14 if they could have, and be done with me. I am CONSTANTLY - well, at least once a week - it slips out of my mouth that my T should marry me because of some coincidence. THEN I would have some self-worth. But by whose standards? And frankly, I like my previous T better than this one - he's more my 'type'! So how seriously can I take my feelings? And that may be how your T sees your feelings - this may be the first time it's happened to you, but it's not the first time it's happened to him? I am just trying to say, I suffer too like you, and hope my thoughts help you.