I'm going through a VERY stressful time of it at the moment. My job is 99.9999% secure [for now] but I won't know for sure until a process is completed, a process public have launched in reaction to the impact of the recession on my department. It's VERY stressful. This process of deep insecurity has been going on for a year, and last week we thought we had some closure, and then, bam, limbo again.

Anyway. My Mum has this stock phrase she brings out when someone is going through stress. It's "These things are sent to try us." and the stock response is "And they do." It's said in a tone of voice that feels sarcastic and a culture of the victimised, as it were.
This morning my parents phoned, and I said about what's going on, and Mum came out with the phrase, and then Dad piped up with the response in the background.
Today I actually told my Mum how that phrase actually upsets me. I feel good about being assertive, but I also feel bad that I may have upset her. The phrase is meant to be a cynical kind of comfort, but I'm afraid it doesn't reach me. And, she's my Mum, wouldn't some "Things sound tough, I'm here for you" be more appropriate, or maybe I'm too demanding?