Not sure if this helps, but I dated an Iraq widow for awhile and I was miserable. 99 percent of the conversation was about him...pictures of him everywhere, post on facebooks on how much she missed him and loves him.....i was her friend at first to help her thru it but eventually i couldn't be in a relationship with her. It was way too soon for her. She is now on her 4th boyfriend after her husband was killed. I feel bad about it all but at the same time, alot of it is her fault. On one hand she wasn't/isnt ready for a relationship, on her other hand, she wants to be in a relationship with someone to help her cope with the loss. Not in anyways fair for the other person.