I think the T does really make a difference. I've had 3 T's, and my current one is the only one I've ever really connected with enough to trust and to make real progress with. My previous T's kept me safe when I was at really low points in my life, but I didn't make much real progress with them...I didn't trust them enough, and I couldn't relate to them, and I felt like they didn't really understand me.

However, it also took me over a year and a half to really trust my current T, and after those 18 months, I finally felt safe enough to bring up the big stuff. I couldn't actually start working on it for another 8 months, though, and it's just been in the last three weeks that we've really started working on some of the big stuff (so 2 years, 3 months in to the therapy relationship).

So, maybe your current T isn't the best fit for you, or maybe you just need to give it more time. Only you can really know that. Do you think you have the trust in your T to really let him help you work through the big issues? Do you feel like he has the skills to help you? Does your relationship seem to work well, or do you constantly feel like there's just not quite a connection? Think about the relationship you have and if you don't think it will be helpful, then maybe it's time for a new T.