Oregon is right. How do you feel about your marriage? Think deep, and be honest. How happy are you? How happy is she? It would help for the two of you to at least speak together with a counselor for a few sessions. I wish I had a better answer for you, something more specific. But to be honest, in my case it's the man trying to change me. I'm not very happy about it either. I hope everything works out the best for you!

Ann