I have been doing a lot of thinking Michael. You talk about control and how that seems to be important to you. However, no matter how someone is designed, and no one is perfect, everyone has some kind of issue by the virtue of being raised by parents that are never perfect.

You have, by your intellect mastered some important social graces and affects that help you to somehow gain control, you may think to fool others. But in all honesty, that is what most people do, grow to learn the appropriate affects that will gain them access to moving through life gaining some kind of control or respect. But if you take the time to read in the different forums, many members of PC struggle with how to be and function in life around other people and interact with them and learn how to be accepted or appreciated. And the reality is, you can please some of the people some of the time, but never all the people all the time, all everyone is unique.

I don't really see any member signing their posts, respectfully yours, well, that is what you used to write, until your recent rub with your neighbor. But what that original signiture expressed was a welcome of respect and honesty. Most people don't do that unless they are in a business transaction where long ago they learned how to end a letter properly. So you are expressing your intelligence and your ability to control social graces. And there are people that have the emotionalities you don't have that will not allow themselves to express general social graces.

In my last post I talked about how everyone experiences rejection of some kind, and they even reject themselves and isolate and become angry at society and other humans. Humans are no good they decide or they are not worthy to relate. Just look at all the different members and how they express themselves and their experiences with others that lead them to believe they should isolate, run, or reject humanity altogether. If you see that, you will realize that what your posting is pretty much the same sentiment, with or without emotionality.

Control? I thought about that and what makes me determine who pleases me. I always like honesty and I always appreciate those that take time to think of my situation or issue and express a thought. So just by your intellect and ability to learn the social needs of others you can gain control without emotionality. The one thing you have to make sure you do intellectualize control over a desire to harm, and the truth is we all have to do that. I myself have sooo much anger for my neighbor, but I cannot go and punch him out or act out something that could release my anger. No I have to practice control, which may be harder for me than you because I still suffer emotionally from that family's negligence.

I suppose you can curtail that because you dont have that extra emotionality that can be constantly robbing you psychologically. Perhaps you would do better than me in working the legal system through your intellectual capacity without letting emotionality get in the way. So just because you have a lack, doesn't mean you have less power or social strength.

And as I think about my partnership with my husband, I enjoy his ability to be honest and see my needs and respect me. He is an emotional being and he did screw up and cause me years of struggle. So there you go, you may have done better and intellectually kept control of yourself and the relationship. Perhaps you have abilities of control that you don't recognize. As I mentioned once before, many politicians are psychopaths because they have recognized the power of intellectualizing the social graces that the masses like and see as a strong structure they can follow. And the intellectual side of these politicians can masterfully get a decent structure actually in place.

Anyone can be a social porria, all one has to do is make a mistake or not fulfill the needs for the whole of society somehow. But as history proves, these social graces can be restored and forgiven whenever someone finds a way to rise above.

I think you would do yourself a great dis-service to let some neighbor control your anger and feelings toward the whole of humanity. That is a intellectual test for you, and your not stupid, so you can overcome that. You can probably do that better than someone who takes that opinion in emotionally. So don't sell yourself short and judge one as all.