Hopefully this will be the last thread regarding my relationship with my sister.

I have been living here since April as I wanted to be near family and also start my non-profit business here as well. I even wrote my sister before I moved that these were the 2 reasons for doing so.

Once I got here, she said that as long as I am living with her, that I won't be able to do that. That I need to get a steady job. When she said that, I felt floored. The unemployment rate in this city is one of the highest in the country 15 percent as compared to 7 percent in Austin. So it took 2 months to find a job.

During this time, I found that my sister and brother in law have no boundaries. Their boundaries and rules must be followed. If I set a boundary, it's ignored (i.e. my brother-in-law grabbing my wrist if I do something he thinks is wrong). I told him not to touch me anymore. Couple months later he slaps me on my knee. My sister has listened in on my phone conversations on her other extension, she's gone through my drawers ( told her not to do that and she said she had a right to do that since this was her house).

She also went to the hospital because she said she had chest pains. She told me not to tell anyone or she would kick me out of her house (I haven't met any friends yet and have no car). As a result I feel I have no rights regarding anything. Even the way I speak cannot have any sarcasim in it.

She knows I am bipolar, but once told and informed, it's like she forgets or something and doesn't understand why I do certain things.

Recently she went through my packed items in the garage and unsealed some things that were not suppose to be opened (I had bed bugs about a year ago and was told to keep those items sealed for another few months). So then the bed bugs started showing up... knowing my sister's behavior, I just treated them with stuff I got in the store and it didn't help. Her maid saw a bed bug and all hell broke loose. Once again, she yelled and threatened me and said you are lucky I don't throw you out.

I got so sick of this toxic behavior I decided to go live in some VA apartments. I told them about it and it was decided that they would decide where I could live and that I should not move to the VA place. It's safe and has guards and it's gated but still in a bad area.

Things have gotten so bad, that I am going to go ahead and move out while they are on their cruise so there will be no room for discussion. Even living in a bad area even though the apartments are nicee and safe would be a welcome relief to me rather than have her throw me out with no way to get around.

I thought my sister and I were close, but in her house, her and her hubby act very different than when they are around others.

I don't know what will happen between me and my sister after I move, and I don't care if they get mad because I won't have to stand there and listen to them yelling at me. I think I could handle seeing her a few times a year and being okay with that. I don't want to break the realtionship off totally but I'm tired of her listening in on my phone calls, going through my stuff, *****ing about little things. I'm tired of not knowing when my brother-in-law will grab my wrist or slap me on my knee anymore.

I am also gay and I was told that I wasn't suppose to let their learning disabled son know I am gay and was told specifically not to bring my friends to their house.

Sometimes I feel like my sister and brother-in-law are emotional bullies, toxic to my mental health. I can't stay here anymore and I can leave in 9 days (will have to take the bus, but that is no big deal).

Looking for validation and support. My other sister has nothing to do with her either which is pretty telling in itself.

To be honest, if it wasn't for my brother-in-law keeping things even, I think my sister would have told me to leave a long time ago.

I also got into trouble with him when I called 911 to take her to the hospital. Seems she likes the IV drugs they give her. She has seizures when she get's stressed also, so I've had to walk on eggshells around her.

I am honestly starting not to like her. I think she is a bully, a biotch, spoiled rotten person.

Am I doing the right thing?