I'm also 42. It's weird. I used to be much more confident than I am now. But one of the things I have learned is that there is such a thing as being too confident. Sometimes what we view in others as confidence can really just be arrogance on their part. But yes, there are people who are confident and well-adjusted.

My recommendation, though, is to not compare your own confidence with someone else's. You're your own person. Compare where you are now to where you used to be. That's a more healthy thing to do because it lets you know if you're improving any.

Be sure that you're loved by God, and that is enough to make your self-esteem stronger!

And that's all I've got for ya!