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Originally Posted by spaceid
Is there a part of Murphy's Law that applies to your lovelife? I think one does for me.
I'm a loner, but sometimes I can find a guy that I am surprisingly interested in. However, he never becomes interested in me. And then when a guy actually shows interest in me (rarely) I just don't feel the same way about him. I'm 28 years old and I've never been on a proper date or had someone tell me that they love me. What is up with that? I take care of myself, I think I'm kind of adorable, I'm friendly, approachable, smart...what is missing? I'm kind of quiet, but I don't ignore people.
I got used to living like this though, under this law of "you'll be interested in him, but he'll never be interested in you" and vice versa. I figured that was my life...until I met J. J started chatting me up, wanted me to spend time with him. Eventually we were with each other everyday. I eat dinner at his house most nights. We go on vacation together. Wow! Has the law forgotten about me? Has it become bored with me and latched on to someone else? No, it was just in hiding. The law was just playing a trick on me because J likes me and acts like he cares about me, but doesn't want a girlfriend or anything. Anyways he's thinking of joining the Peace Corps and disappearing for 27 months. Good one, Murphy's Law, you really made me think some guy actually cared about me for once...I guess I should go back to not caring. I don't know what other choice I have.
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Wow, you took the words right out of my mouth because I am going through a similar situation. Just when I thought it was going good & things might actually work out for me with a man, he basically disappears.
I wish I had some good advice for you, but I can't even figure out my own situation.
I too wish I didn't care because it definitely seems easier that way. Once I do start to not care or look for someone special, he seems to fall into my lap.
A girlfriend of mine has recommended a few books to me which I've just ordered from Amazon. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and The Secret. Honestly, they both seem kinda silly to me, but I'm going to read them. Hopefully, one will make me understand men a little more and the other will help me think more positively.
Anyway, again, I wish I could help by giving some profound advice, but I don't have any.
I guess one way to look at the situation is that this person just wasn't THE ONE for you. Or, the timing just isn't right.
I'm hoping the stars will align in my favor and give me exactly what I wish for soon. Until then, I'll just read a lot of silly self help books with positive affirmations.
