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(JD) · Oct 22, 2011, 07:29 PM

You know I don't do this well... legal hassles and if I were independently wealthy I would not be involved in my own litigation from time to time regarding my obstinate disability insurance company.

BIG HUGS. A few more things crossed my mind.

Why isn't your husband doing MORE to help you with all this... why isn't he the one fortifying and making your property safe and inaccessible? Why is it all YOUR animals, YOUR bankruptcy etc. Have I missed (or gasp forgotten!) something important here?

Yes, your PTSD makes this a monumental effort that as your T is trying to help you realize may NOT be worth it health wise. But I also understand that if you would continue to harbor the ill will against the neighbor, with the mindset that He would have "won" and continue to mull that over for the rest of your life, then you wouldn't have health anyway.

Yes the system allows attorneys to misbehave. Yes, their bottom line is money. But remember also that EVERYONE knows their tactics, including the JUDGES! So while they will twist and turn things, your attorney is supposed to untwist and turn things.

And that brings me to the crux of your problem: your attorney. If I were you, and were pursuing this to the end in spite of what else.. then I would HAVE to find another attorney OR make him hire an assistant to do what you are trying and unable to do for your own case. You are connected to universities and colleges right? Can you find a law student or intern for him? Is there a law library around where you can interest an eager to please and show his/her stuff off? They helped me immensely just on the phone when I was looking for information early on.

THAT is where I would put my energy. Until you have someone who is truly representing you, you might not win. What good is all this effort for that result? And meanwhile, the attorneys continue to get paid, so what do they care how many years it drags on???

Another item: if 2 insurance companies are involved, why aren't THEY helping you fight this??? Did they pay already? How are they involved? If you've made a claim and they haven't paid, then demand it. Even a car insurance company fights when someone they insure is sued over an auto case!

You need someone to advise you regarding your options. Maybe you can go online to a "free" site (where you aren't obligated to pay, but can if you get good advice to your question) and find out what all your options are?

Write down everyone once and for all. See if your spouse will help with this (maybe writing while you think and do dishes..) All the details once and for all in once place. THEN refer to this each time you are deposed or otherwise discussing the issues. If it will go on for years, there's no reason to be stressing over the answers when the answers won't be changing. Take a day and go to a park and do it if home is too stressful. Eat chocolate and listen to classical music to help your brain.

Ok I had another thought but it's fled now.