There comes a time in everybody's recovery when they have to own their recovery and their illness and take responsibility for it. I have Bipolar 1, too, and would have LOVED to have had a supportive mother like you. But you are right. He is a grown man, and it is time for him to take responsibility for his own actions without you bailing him out every time, or him expecting something from you everytime. Stand firm behind a boundary that protects you from being taken advantage of and take care of yourself. It sounds as though you could use some pampering.