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Originally Posted by CantExplain
Hi! I'm having trouble with my therapist challenging me. I know challenges are important, but they can be very painful. Sometimes I get overwhelmed. I feel anger, shame, failure.
What's the point of giving me a challenge I can't cope with? She's just hurting me for no reason. I've asked her to be more gentle with me, but she says, "I have to challenge you or you won't grow." I don't feel heard. I get more and more paranoid and I just want to walk away.
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Good morning, CantExplain!
You yourself own your own therapy. You have hired T to help you and guide you but the ultimate decisions have to be made by you. And T has to accept that. She may feel she is doing what she does in your best interests, but in the end only you decide what your best interests are.
It sounds like you do need a serious talk with T about adjusting the pace of therapy so that it's more comfortable for you. Tell her that at the moment it's just too painful for you and that both of you have to ease off until you catch your breath.
Take care and have a good day!
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