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the reason you feel like a failure is because you do cling to "what might have been."

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It's not opinion, Sky. It's FACT. "What might have been"... only it can't be with this particular man. He doesn't have it to give. Emotionally, he's 13.

Noooo... I don't believe in three's a charm. Not going doing that road ever again!

If I step out of my pity party, I know that it's not my fault! For 30 yrs, I was the one that did all the changing, adjusting, compromising, allowed myself to be abused either covertly or overtly, tried to get him to see that I am not the enemy.

What I mourn is the good times and we certainly had some of those. Not that many, but some that were outstanding!

It's taking me quite a while to finish up this response. I got a phone call from my middle son... HIS son. He just went through a divorce not too long ago. It was apparent to me that if he at any time felt quilty, it sure didn't show! His advice? "Asses the relationship. How much did you give to it as opposed to how much you feel he gave. (MY perspective) Did you do everything within your power to make it work? Did you give it your best?" If the answer to the last two questions is "yes" then I have nothing to feel guilty about. hehe My quiet, "The Scarecrow" son. Talk about your cliches! "Still water runs deep!"

Sky, seems to me Chuck validated what you just said.

Thank God for step-sons!

Thank God, too, for all of my friends here. Don't know what I would do without you. Hope I never have to find out.