I e-mail him pretty freely, because I know it's okay, and that he will just read them when he has time, so it doesn't feel like too much of an intrusion. E-mailing makes me feel safe, like we're kind of connected (I picture a little line on google earth connecting my house to his). He likes me to feel safe.

I'm a lot more hesitant about calling and asking him to call back. I only do it if I'm really really triggered. I called him earlier this week, and it did give me a lot of relief. I was glad I called.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time. It's really hard to know when to reach out, isn't it?