I wish I had a good answer for you. I feel trapped in indecision with that at times too. Maybe you could find a "happy" medium. What if you called or emailed to say what you need to and tell T that you are not looking for a reply, that you just needed to reach out, and you can talk more about it in session? Would that be a good in-between? I have done that from time to time and it has helped me feel connected but not bothersome.

Good luck.