I forgot to mention something about the situation. He is friends with my son's father. We've all known each other for the past 18 years.

He mentioned to me that he is afraid that my ex would find out about us and asked me to keep quiet. I told him I'd never say a word.
I told him that if my ex, his friend, ever found out that he probably wouldn't care. He has a girlfriend and we haven't been together for 12 years now. He doesn't care what I do or who I do it with...even if it is a long time 'friend'.

The thing about it is this: my ex has never had very stellar things to say about this man. He has made fun of him behind his back and said very poor things about him as a person in general. I always took my ex's comments with a grain of salt because my ex is ruled by his ego 120% and over the years I always thought of him to be jealous of this man for various reasons. They are definitely buddies and always will be even with the miles between them, but my ex will always be less than nice when it comes to what he has to say about him behind his back. He can be very two-faced.

This may sound really silly since we are talking about 2 grown men in their 40's, but my ex is one of these big angry bully type of guys who other men look at as a threat. As in, 'don't piss off that guy because you might get punched'.

It's so ridiculous, but it's the truth. It makes me mad to think that this man that I connected with would be such a wuss, if you will.

Then again, if he cared enough about me, he wouldn't care what my ex would think or do and he'd just be with me.

Ugh.