Thanks. I actually had the talk with her and informed her I would be moving out within the next several weeks. She said that they brought me up here, supported me, fed me, let me use their car so I could get a job and that I have brought nothing to their house. No help.

The weeks I spent working on the family business didn't count, the time I spent helping their son doesn't count, the money I put toward food doesn't count, me seeking out my sister to enhance our relationship doesn't count. They wanted me to come in here and if I see something that needs doing, I was suppose to do it. I didn't see anything that needed doing. I also don't cook unless I am in a relationship with a significant other and I didn't cook so I didn't contribute that way. I just let her go on and on and on about it. But the important thing is that I am leaving.

Sister is resentful that I didn't help out more around the house. And that I didn't help the family (like all the times I drove my sister around because she can't drive she said that didn't count because that was expected of me).

Anyway, I lied about where I was going to live because she doesn't like the area I will be living in and I don't want to be forced to live with her.

We both agreed that if we stayed here longer than that, we would ruin the relationship totally.

Also found out my neice has been monitoring any legal activity within the family and reporting back to family. So much for privacy.

I didn't discuss my sister's lack of boundaries and how she violated my privacy time and time again when she listened in on my phone conversations and went through my boxes and drawers and things because I've addressed that before. That's not gonna change. I just need to keep my personal stuff away from her from now on.

My therapist calls this toxic behavior and I agree.