I believe I have 3 or at least a touch of 3 different personality disorders, Avoidant, Borderline and Dependent personality disorders. I have read that one or all of these often include other disorders. I have not been diagnosed but me and my girlfriend have been reading up on these disorders and I seem to meet most of the criteria for all of these. My reason for looking into this is because it is causing problems in my relationship and everyday living.. I lie alot about little things to preserve our relationship even tho I know it will ultimately cause problems, I act on impulse which causes the lie to begin with. I am very loving and affectionate unless I feel she is criticizing me and then I can become argumentative and sometimes verbally abusive and physically abusive. I try to justify my lie by blaming it on anything and everything and then I feel guilty and ashamed of myself and my actions. I have a fear of being alone and if she is not with me I will text or call her repeatedly even tho I know she is doing nothing wrong so I am also paranoid about what she is doing. I dont like to make decisions on my own (even small ones like what movie to watch or where to eat) , I prefer for her to make all the decisions so that I know she is happy. and also I dont like to take responsibility for my actions which is why I dont like to make decisions for myself. Now I do like being around people especially in a situation where I know I am accepted and liked..I love to sing karaoke, I am good at it and always get complimented which fulfills my need for acceptance, which is why if she is not happy with me I will want to go to a bar and sing just to have some kind of feeling of acceptance. I also, am always apologizing for the things I have done or said, I have hurt her alot and would like to know how to get a grip on this problem. She has helped me alot with some of this but I keep repeating past mistakes and I dont know how to control it. LOL I could keep on and on but I dont want to overwhelm anyone! Just need help been dealing with this for a very long time and have just now been able to identify it for what it is. All advice is welcome, Thanks ahead of time!