A good idea of whether youa re in love is to ask yourself: Do I want what's best for her or o I want what I want? that should give you an idea of what love actually is. Love is wanting someone else to be happy. As for what to do? take upa new hobby. If you always wanted to learn a foregin language, go for it. (besides, you can use foul language in another language. say it sweetly and she'll probably nod her head and smile as you call her a jezebel.) You CAN have some fun with an ex. or take up another hobby. go out with friends. meet other women. you'll find other things to do. One day you're going to be glad she's not with you anymore because you'll be with someone who lives to make YOU happy. and you'll want ot make her happy and then you'll forget about what's her name.