Hey Dismantle Repair,

Wow..this is a big deal. And hard to figure out at times. I think I found that there are going to be some friends and family that can be supportive and helpful and some that just can't. That is their deal-their boundaries and capabilities. I was able to find just a few that I could really go to. One of which I even came up with a few key phrases with which to really let him know where I was...so I didn't have to seemingly start from scratch each time. I also became very careful to never cry wolf and only ask for help when I really needed it.

I also try to reach out and be there for my friends as much as I can to help make sure that the relationships stay healthy and because staying "out of myself" is also good for me, frankly. Many times family members unless educated and willing to reach out for guidance in helping you from a professional, will do more harm than good and say things like some of your friends said to you. You just have to rack it up to ignorance or lack or empathy. Some of those people will be toxic to you and you will have to stay away from them and learn not to "expect" anything from them when you really need support.

I hope you will find some good support networks or groups or professionals and friends and family that can be very helpful and supportive to you. I personally have had a hard time with this as well... Best of luck to you and keep searching for there is so very much help out there..you just have to keep asking and keep searching.

Gentle safe hugs,
Wysteria Blue