I'm sorry about your disappointment regarding this man. As a man I would never walk away from any relationship or person in such a manner regardless of what I felt.

My thoughts.regarding feedback....I think our emotional decisions, especially those involving partners, clearly have the potential to be the most costly and damaging in our lives--and frequently are. When looking at a possible romantic partner too many issues can cloud our perception. An outsider can see unhealthy dynamics that we will be blind too. I think somehow getting feedback from others who know us is good. Of course our therapist, if we had one, could offer insight/feedback but friends or even something like this forum allow others to see what we might not want to.

This doesn't pertain to your situation obviously but I use it to make my point bluntly regarding getting "a second opinion" with partners . ---If and when you are in Criminal Court, Family Court or Civil Court regarding the actions of a partner (assault, child support, property theft, property division, etc.)----you won't be able to find the words "love" or "emotions" anywhere in the laws that will govern your case.