My girlfriend is very hard to talk to, when she is mad she likes to be left alone, but when I'm mad I like to talk to try and get over it, or discuss the problem. Obviously these are conflicting and sometimes make it worse. My girlfriend is older than I am. I've lent her a lot of money, which she says she will pay me back when her settlement comes in. (risky, i know, you can call me stupid for this one) I've recently posted in the depression section as well. I almost lost her due to the depression but I snapped at out it for a bit but I've been really mad today and it's coming back a little. So i've lent her lots of money and she wanted a dog so I said yes after 20 minutes of her asking. Later when I was home I thought about it and sent a text saying I wont be able to so she woke up and saw it and obviously got upset, but she said she was going to have someone else get it for her, which made me mad because that seems like some highschool **** right there... I told her thats gonna make me feel crappy.. she was like what ever about it pretty much, like I said its hard to talk to this girl. So later I found out that person said no too so shes been really mean to me all day. for example, she said "im pissed/aggravated/sad" then i said "well at least you get to spend the night at my house. (she used to sleep over a lot but got a 2nd job so our time was cut down from seeing each other about everyday to seeing her maybe once every 5 days for 30 minutes, so I'm obviously looking forward to her sleeping over tonight) she then responded with "im not happy, i dont wanna talk, ill text you later"

This made me really mad because i told her, this is why i said yes at first because if i said no right away i would have had to deal with you be in a bad mood and all pissy. so i got a little pissed, and tried talking to her which made her more mad because shes a little busy and likes her space when im mad.. but its hard for me, because im not doing much with myself at the moment, so i sit around and think too much.. i sometimes feel like i mean nothing to her, im afraid of being used, and being hurt. im the type that likes to talk to fix problems, because if not the sit inside me and get worse over time. one of my friends is telling that something is wrong here.

my girlfriend is 28, she had a rough past which i need to remember, so shes very independent. i really love her and she claims to love me too, i just dont feel it sometimes. this whole thing may have not even made any sense because im so mad that im shaking.. and i have so much i want to get out but i cant talk to this girl... what should i do? i really don't want to leave her or break up. i want to work everything out but it takes two to do that, and i feel like i always get blamed for our arguments. am i the one being immature? i just dont get it.. ask any questions i probably forgot to add some stuff.