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Originally Posted by Perna
Beautiful picture! Greg does not "look like" a slut puppy to me. He looks like a happy guy.
I don't think he would go to the work of coming to see you, marrying you (notice that Douglas did not choose to marry you), doing all the visa work and making a place for you here in the States if he did not want to be with you and spend time with you?
Maybe you are afraid of leaving the Philippines where you know people and the culture and how things are and coming to a new country? That's very scary, especially if you don't know anyone; I would join some "regular" groups online and meet other women, both Filipinas and others, especially some who live in the area you will be coming to? Talk to them about Greg and see what they think? Get some roots started here so when you get here you have people you have talked to online and can meet in person, maybe a church group, etc.
Another thought is to ask Greg for enough money to fly back to the Philippines if you have too much trouble getting use to the United States and find you really do not like it. Tell him you do not plan to use the money, do not want it for its obvious use but want it for emotional security while you are becoming use to his country. Tell him it might cut down on how many bad things you say about him, how much stress you put on the relationship trying to reassure yourself that it will all be all right because you will have the means to make it all right if you are disappointed.
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Thank you Perna for the effort of letting me know your thoughts about my situation. First I would say I have no problem about money and friends. For now, I have some 20 ex-colleagues, ex-students and long time family friends who know about my recent marriage to Greg and they are willing to help me feel at home in the new country. Five of them promised to meet me in the airport with Greg once I arrive there.
Thank you also for giving me some insight about Greg not looking like a "slut puppy"...it helps me feel better in a way. I know that my accusations had hurt Greg so much and this pile up with my other fears and phobias.
Greg has done a lot that show his good nature, in fact I feel guilty for not appreciating...but I do appreciate what he had done and continues doing for me and our relationship.
I just feel like the Greg I married and being with in person when he was here is different from the Greg I see in the cam when we chat...his habitual actuation and behavior in the net is so much different from the behavior of the Greg I lived with for some time here in my own home.
I will try to be more tolerant and considerate next time...I know that it would be very difficult but I love my husband and won't let him go just like that.
Thank you.
Jenny
"Set me as a seal upon thine arms, as a seal upon thine heart; for love is strong as death, jealousy is cruel as the grave; the coals thereof are coals of fire which hath the most vehement flame."