I always hear people talk on PC about transference and they seem to be talking about having romantic feelings towards their T. or feelings of wanting love like a child from a parent.... I was just wondering if other feelings are transference as well...

For instance, I have this cycle that goes on... I start to feel emotionally close to my T. ...then I have extreme feelings of fear of abandonment.... then I start to fight those feelings and talk about quitting.... I have done this three times now...

Is it transference that causes this fear of abandonment? Because logically I know that as long as I can pay therapist, he's going to keep seeing me.

I tried to talk to my T. about this once but he didn't seem comfortable. I sent him an email once sort of complaining/letting him know something bothered me and I ended it with please email me back to let me know you received the email and that I didn't just ruin things... During the next session he brought up the email and that specific line and said I could never ruin things but when I tried to explain why I had written it...basically wanting to talk about the fear of abandonment ....he sort of cut me short and he seemed uncomfortable...

I don't know its just become too hard/ too much ...and my H. is starting therapy with another T. in the same office for an addiction problem that I asked him to go to T. for...but now I can't afford to pay for my T. ...so it just seems like now may be the time to quit..

Could this be transference? Or is it just my serious trust issues? Are all T.'s trained to deal with transference?