I don't know if it's transference but it sounds like your t wasn't understanding you. Maybe you need to explain where you're coming from to him more clearly?

Also, it frustrates me when addictions get more attention than other issues, like depression, since the first tends to be men (not always of course) and the second tends to happen to women more (again, obviously not always). I hope you can find a way to keep going to your t as well as your husband.