aren't ethics and morality the foundations of the "good life" ?? if not, then what is good? being ethical (not lying, cheating, stealing, screwing around, slandering, wasting, deceiving, etc.) is what one wants in a friend... who better to be a friend than oneself ? if you can honestly say that you are living an ethical life, then you cannot be addicted to those things which make you incompetent, is my opinion. best wishes on your insights,, Gus