I have heard that phrase before--from my teenage daughter! She said the first couple of years she went to therapy she wasn't using it. She just kind of went and sat there and didn't really try or engage. Then she said one day she woke up and realized she might be able to benefit from all her therapist and the process had to offer. So she began taking a much more active role in her therapy, talking about the things that she needed to work on, not making the therapist pull words out of her, revealing more of herself to the therapist--her thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams, worries, fears, etc. I was really proud of her when she told me this. Sheeeesh, she sounds so mature! I am glad she is now using therapy for all it can offer.