Sex means different things for different people. What matters is you feeling comfortable with your sexuality and your choices you make about sex. I waited until I felt comfortable with someone, felt safe, and felt cared about. I wasn't in love with my bf when we had sex, but I felt comfortable and cared about and I am happy my virginity went to him and nobody else. For me personally I didn't want to wait till marriage, but it's okay if that is your choice. Sex is more than just a physical act it's an emotional one too, something a lot of people forget. You need to be emotionally ready as well as comfortable. Whatever you choose will be what is best for you. If you are having issues talk to a T, I had to become very comfortable with myself and work through some past traumas before I was ok with sex and my sexuality. Wishing you the best happycheeks.