I'm dealing with something very similar. For about 6 months everything was fine with T as we were dealing with something in my current life. Once that was resolved, and we started discussing my family of origin and doing dream work, things got .... strange. I knew there was something going on at an unconscious level that I couldn't identify. I started feeling like I was resisting or fighting something a few hours before each session. I also had the distinct impression that I was losing this unconscious battle. Then I started picking up lots of negative emotions from him (anger, disappointment, annoyance) and feeling very uncertain of him. I was expecting abandonment at any time. Since when???? This is the same exact T who I was fine with for 6 months, and now suddenly he's changed? I don't think so.

These feelings that I'm supposedly picking up from him are the exact same ones I would get from my father. Hmmmm ..... I'm becoming more and more convinced that in my mind T is turning into my father! Ugh. Transference, anyone?? I'm only with him 50 min a week, and the rest of the time is my memory of how he looked and acted. I keep thinking he was sitting there glowering at me, because that's how I remember it. Really? There's something fishy going on here, and I'll be discussing it with him.

But yes, I think I've transferred my feelings about my father to him, and I'm expecting him to behave the way my father would. That's the only explanation that makes sense.

And as you said, readytostop, this happened at the exact same time that I started to feel emotionally close to him. As long as I felt emotionally distanced from him, everything was fine. But once a feeling of intimacy crept in, blam! I just want to run away.