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I have never been in DBT but I have been in other Behavioral Therapies that were not very helpful at all - CBT and REBT. I have seen posts by others who were helped very much by DBT. We're all different.

The most helpful to me is my current therapy. I researched types of therapies and decided that I wanted someone analytically oriented. I contacted the nearest Psychoanalysis Training Institute and got a referral to someone in my community who was at that time a candidate (student). Students in Psychoanalysis training are already therapists, and are learning psychoanalysis. My therapist has been a therapist for 30 years.
Anyway, my therapy is Psychodynamic/Psychoanalytic. I am helped by the close and supportive therapeutic relationship and by her helping me to know and understand myself so much better. She's helped me learn what fears are the root of so many of my issues. Since I tend to not want to 'look' at myself, to be able explore that with her and in the accepting and respectful relationship is wonderful.
My therapy has helped me to not become so overwhelmed that I meltdown as much as I used to, and I hope that continues to improve. It also helps me to understand others, so important! As I understand myself, the human-ness of myself, I can also better understand others. So those are some ways my depression and anxiety are helped by my therapy.