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Originally Posted by stopdog
I have never seen a t do it in a way that is helpful. If others have, then I am glad it worked for you. Basically they are paid to provide a service. If they are getting all worked up by dealing with a client, then they should go deal with it elsewhere or tell the client to find someone else who has a better handle on themselves.
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Stopdog, I have such strong opinions about this myself because I have had less than perfect therapy experiences. T's are not a one size fits all. Although it may be my experience, it has not been the experience with many of my friends and other PC'ers. I believe there are ways for a T to share both, positive and negative, feelings with a client in ways that can be helpful.
T's are paid to provide a service,but they are human. They have thoughts, feelings, experiences, challenges,(not to mention, a past) much like you and me.
I agree if they can't check their feelings at the door and provide healthy ways of helping a client, then they need supervision or to consider a referral.
The OP's original question was "When should my therapist be angry with me?" and listed some personal opinions on when it is appropriate and when it is not. I think it is ALWAYS appropriate when handled in a healthy way and it promotes the well being and healing of a client. In this particular case, the OP's choice to act out might be frustrating the T because the T DOES care and wants to help the client see their own self-defeating patterns, and ultimately, their own self-worth. Why would that not be appropriate to say?