So tonight me and BF sat down and had a discussion about the issue...

I had came to the conclusion that I was not calling his mother, i was not apologizing, or begging for forgiveness for something that i had nothing to do with, and i was not going to give her the satisfaction that she had done what she probably wanted to accomplish-hurt my feelings.

i simply told BF that i wasnt going to make him choose, however i was going to ask him to mature about the situation and decide what his plan of action was; either he was going to group up, set bounderies for himself and speak up to his mom, move out, or obey his parents rule and not spend the night here again

i cant afford to loose my place or have bad blood with the neighbours if a situation comes about like that again.

this is MY home and I deserve every bit of respect here. if the shoe was on the other foot she would have called the cops. that is NEVER going to happen at MY house again, i assure you.

once again, thank you for all who read, and commented. and thank you for the kudos on keeping my mouth shut. i normally have a big mouth and could never let someone disrespect me in such a tone, but i let it go because i love him so much. that should show how much i am willing to do for him, LOL

thanks guys again!!