I like the question Sannah asked about what is a challenge to you. I don't think my T really challenges me but I don't think he's really gentle with me either. He's just kind of normal or "in between" with me. So I'm not sure what a challenge even means. Last session we were talking about something and I was ready to move on and he said not yet. He wanted to get me to agree to an action plan before we left the topic. So I let him talk about it a while longer. Was that my T challenging me? For a moment, not just letting me choose our direction?

I'm not very good when people are rude or unpleasant or angry with me (I exit quickly), so if being challenging means any of those things, I would not do well with it. But if it means bringing up alternative ideas and interpretations to my own, then I am open to this. I like to have T's more balanced, outside perspective. But this doesn't feel like a challenge to me, just his sharing his own perspective with me.

I realize I don't know what a challenge is! Would like to hear what this means to you, Can'tExplain.