Wow. A lot of stuff going on here. Stopdog, you sound like you're describing a prostitute, and I think that's what Dr Muffin picked up on. That's not an uncommon picture of the situation in T, IME, but I think a less than useful or workable or ideal one.

I think part of what is happening with Kaliope's dueling T and Pdoc, and with CantExplain, is the T's frustration that the client doesn't seem to value the bond the T thought was there, but apparently isn't as strong as the T thought it was. Like the time in the early 80's I told T I got married over the weekend. She was livid! I didn't think it was that big of a deal. Now of course I realize there was a lot more "wrong" (i.e., disconnected, unaware, in denial) with ME, maybe not so much to DO such a thing, but to not be able to understand why she would be angry with me.

This bond thing is apparently pretty important to the therapist, they believe that's the avenue of change. So they are pretty protective or sensitive about it. Sign me, dismissively attached to mother, securely attached to T?