canuck1971 -
your post struck me so much I'm posting for the 1st time here.

For many years, my most HATED thing to hear from someone is, "Get over it". Or when I'm upset, when someone says I should "move on" or "get past" something.

I've come to realize that there are reasons people say those things that have nothing to do with the person they're saying them to, and everything to do with the person saying it. Sometimes people say it because that's what they say to themselves, and they really think it's helpful. Sometimes people say it because they're too afraid to speak the truth, or maybe don't know how - and what they really should be saying is, "You know what, I'm not emotionally capable of being a moral support for you going through this, so right now I need you to not talk to me about it."

I believe when I've said to myself, "get over it"... I've fallen into those 2 categories too. But of course, being myself, it's not really an option to not be of moral support to myself!
So with that in mind, I've taken the stance that I simply will not say that to myself.

I hate having ptsd too.

I too feel like I should be a fairly normal average person, because I am most of the time, I think... And then whenever I get into a situation that's stressful in a particular way, I turn into this emotionally troubled (and yeah it feels like weakness) person who has problems coping. And is living in the past - or repeating the past... unwillingly but unable to not.

But though I'm in a time of trouble right now... I think I can give some hope - that I have had years at a stretch, where I've done quite well, and my ptsd has not significantly impeded me living my life and enjoying it.
My mistake has been falling away from doing what I should be doing when things are going well, and then being not quite as strong as I could have been when things go wrong.
I recommend not making that mistake, when things are going well for you. And eventually, things will be going better for you.