that is definitely a conversation worth having with her...whether she's angry or not. rigidity tends to breed rebellion, i've learned!

times when ive seen therapists get angry at clients (and times when i have felt myself becoming angry) have been times when the therapist is (or thinks he/she is) working harder on the client's issues than the client is. and that is a problem in and of itself....that's the therapist's issue to explore.

in my case when i feel myself getting angry, i really wonder why that is. and every time, its been that i am feeling WAY too invested in "saving" someone, rather than helping them find their own way. i dont have much of a savior complex so it doesnt happen very often....but certain clients can trigger that in me (specifically when i worked with children)