My T got irritated with me once and she explained that my behavior caused it and she apologized but she has never explained WHY my behavior would bother her. I thought i my actions were relatively minor. It's a rupture in my mind that still hasn't been repaired. I don't think about it much but it's still an issue that needs resolution and I've told her that in the past. But we haven't yet taken time to sort through it.

I also believe T's should never get angry. They're supposed to be in touch with their own ***** and not let it flow over on us. They're there to help us with our emotions and if we have to face their anger, it then becomes an unsafe place for us.