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This same thing makes me really angry too. I personally think abuse almost always proves someone doesn't love another person. It's like they try to justify things by using love as an excuse, as if that makes everything ok. It definitely does make it feel like they're saying the abuse didn't matter. Or like they're trying to make me feel really guilty for any of the effects of it, like I shouldn't have any issues because the abuser allegedly loves me. I shouldn't be angry, because they love me. They would never intentionally hurt me, because they love me. I shouldn't have problems, because they love me. Riiiight...

One other thing I consider sometimes (but not often, because honestly its too hard to) is that it's easier to think that they don't love me, even hate me. It makes my anger feel more justified. The thought of someone loving and abusing me at the same time is pretty much intolerable. I don't know how to deal with that. So it's easier just to believe they don't love me, which is likely the truth anyway.