After many years in therapy I realized that the majority of my concerns were directed to any and all things without very much being about my concerns, my feelings, my betrayals etc. I think it would serve you well to focus on is going on inside of you and own this as a guide for you in therapy. A really good counselor will take little credit for your growth as a person and allow you to be proud of yourself. Regardless of the outcome of your sessions, listen to the responses you hear from the person who's life you have chosen to relate your problems to. Take credit where credit is due remembering to direct the majority of this to yourself. Your search is for you. It should not serve as fodder for the counselor to chew on. Promise yourself that you will be as truthful as you can possibly be to yourself. Try to avoid making your counselor your protector. Protect yourself with the truth and look for signs that the therapist is actually concerned. If you do not get the feeling he or she is, you owe it to yourself to go at least 6 times. After all you are putting yourself out there and what goes out there should be a lot of what I call 'words unspoken.' prioritize your concerns and try to be as honest as you feel you must. I languished in therapy and a puddle of medications and then I realized one day that honesty is so important when it comes to revealing yourself.
After all, answers or responses to your statements can only be as true as you offer the truth. Spend time making a list of your priorities and address them. Do not make the mistake of feeling that your time with the councilor is your opportunity to confess over and over your short comings. Therapy is hard, as it should be and it should lead you to understand that the answers you
are already in you. Being the source of the truth about yourself
is yours to own. Please reply and let me know how you are doing. My time is short and I will save some for you as often as I can. In the mean time know that many of us in here are or are where you have been so don't feel alone. peace.